“I have been asked a bunch of times if it’s hard to have sex workers as lovers. Does it make me feel insecure about our sex? Do I get jealous? Do they get sick of sex? Do I worry about my sexual health? Before I address some of these questions, I want to instead question why the queries are always about negative things. I don’t understand why not many people say – “wow, you’re so lucky – that must be amazing”, or “tell me about all the great things you must get to experience”, or even simply, “congratulations, sex workers rock!” So I want to start with some of the many ways I have greatly benefited from having sex workers as lovers and friends.”